As we all know, I’ve been trying the online dating thing. So far, it’s not going to well. First of all, it’s kind of funny to see the different types of guys that use the different sites. For instance:
Match.com – Alpha males. Lots of doctors, lawyers, ad execs. These guys are kind of generic and blah. The want a woman that is equally generic and blah.
Nerve – I thought this site would have a few more hipsters. No.
OkCupid - It’s free and it shows. Lots of guys in their 40′s and 50′s.
Plentyoffish.com – There is a HUGE amount of desperation on this site.Wow.
Chemistry – I don’t think there are any people on this site.
Yahoo – The jury is still out here.
Craigslist – I haven’t posted here. I just do a bit of stalking to see what’s up. I….just don’t know. Too many penis pics for my taste.
I generally have gone on sites and then after too many douchey guys replied, removed my profile. I have posted on one and plan on keeping it up for at least a month. I’m even going to pay. {Gasp}
Here’s the thing…I don’t want a LTR. I just want a FWB (friends with benefits) type of situation, but can’t outwardly say that because then you get every douchebag in the world trying to get in there. I want someone to catch a movie with / grab drinks with / take care of a few things (wink, wink). Is that too much to ask for? I might need a new approach. Suggestions are welcome.
Anyway, I’ve been getting some interesting replies. For instance, one guy – age 49 – send me a “wink”. First off, I think the wink is pretty cheesy. It generally means he hasn’t paid to be on the site and just wants to see where he can get. So, I go to thank him for the wink and then turn him down. Well, before you can reply to him you have to answer 5 questions that he put there. All of the questions are about anal sex and religion. Ewwww..
I make it through his questions and tell him no thanks. Well, he emails me a couple more times. Finally, this weekend he emails me and says this:
I am quitting {insert random shitty dating site here} soon, but I’d like to keep contact with you. My email address is blahblahblah@gmail.com.
Uhm…Ok. Is this some sort of new tactic? Like make me think I’m never going to see him again and I’ll panic and email him? I don’t get it. I continue to ignore him. I then see last night that he continues to check out my profile. I thought you were leaving the site. What a fucking loser.
Why does this have to be so fucking hard? I’m not looking for a husband / father. I’m just looking for a decent guy to kick it with.
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Ha! You and I are kinda looking for the same thing. And I have no idea how to put that kind of information in a profile without all the perves coming out.
I’ve had ZERO success with Match.com. I met one guy from the site and he was a total douchebag. I’m on a couple other ones now, and now it just seems like I attract virgins and king nerds.
I’m beginning to think that just hanging out with my friend Jay – even though I’m not getting any benefits – is close to the best thing out there.
Lolers, you women have it easy. Men have to put up with messages from girls with topics ranging from just a looking for a friend, let’s go to see (insert name of current movie ), all the way up to looking for sex. Any response is then greeted by the usual answer:
“Hey, i found this great site where we can chat, it’s (insert url of some porn/cam/scam site here). I am waiting!”
Is it like so hard?
I am not looking a hook-up, just a movie date who can hold a conversation….sheesh.